Today I want to write about something all mothers grapple with at one time or another, some on a constant basis: guilt.

Every day we are faced with hundreds of tasks, questions, problems, and messes. And we are only one person. How are we to make breakfast, lunch, and dinner? Get everyone clothed and cleaned up enough they don’t look neglected? Keep them busy, out of trouble? Answer the thousands of questions the five year old asks without exploding? Make sure we get everywhere on time? Inevitably things get forgotten. Sometimes we aren’t the most kind or patient. And then we feel bad. This isn’t even taking into consideration the other demands on our time: friends, work and other responsibilities.

How do we deal with this feeling of coming up short? How do we tell ourselves that clearly we are not? Every day I have to remind myself that those little things don’t matter. It’s ok that we forgot to go to swim class because we were doing something else. It’s ok that Jane’s hair was crazy all day or she just wore a t shirt and diaper as long as she felt loved and happy. Our life isn’t meant to be constantly beautiful and perfect like the internet tricks us into thinking. Sometimes we’ll make mistakes, we’ll snap at a question asked ten too many times, we’ll get to a play date and not have any diapers or shoes(clearly forgetfulness is my curse). But if we’re trying our best to be our best that’s what matters. That’s what is important for our kids to see. They need to see our mistakes and even better to see that we can apologize and try again.

Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. It’s ok. You’re doing your best. Get that guilt out of here!


Weekend Life

I hope you all had a great weekend! We kicked our weekend off with a picnic dinner at Sandy Neck beach. It’s sort of ironic that it’s called Sandy Neck because it’s one of the rockiest beaches I’ve ever been to. It’s one of the only beaches on the cape you can build a fire at so it does have that going for it. They have a pretty decent snack shack where you can get fried seafood.

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You can never throw enough rocks. Amiright?

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On Saturday we went to the park with friends and ran some errands and capped the day off by making dinner and eating outside and letting the kids stay up late and making s’mores in the yard. I turned on our cafe lights on the patio and the kids thought it looked like a party. (I am still the boring/mean parent though)

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Most weekends this summer I’ve been on my own with the kids while Chad is shooting weddings. A lot of the days have felt really long but in looking back at the summer this weekend it feels like it’s gone by all too fast.

Now onto another (crazy hot!) week!



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Oh hey, what’s that? I haven’t posted in nearly 6 months? Oh. That’s because I was trying to figure out what I want this little place to be. It wasn’t feeling authentic and it didn’t inspire me. I want it to be a place that makes me happy and feels like me. So I followed some great advice I received at Alt Summit and took a step back. The last few months have been really busy with weddings, my sister’s wedding, and summer vacation shenanigans. I’ve been spending the summer focusing on doing more things with our family and friends, and enjoying the place where we live. My little insane family and our home here on Cape Cod, and the things we do are what make me happy.

Life experiences.

I’ve made it my goal this year to go after enriching experiences vs. spending money on things. Here’s a great article on that if you’re interested.
From now on this is going to be more of a journal and less of a DIY project and internet finds spot. I’ll still post recipes from time to time because cooking makes me happy and so does teaching. I love sharing things I’ve learned with others (even if that isn’t very much).

So here’s to a year of more enriching fulfilling life experiences!

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(Jane eating a mcflurry at the beach. Does it get better?)



Last week Krissy Price, Lauren Wells, and I had the opportunity to host a mini-party on the last night of Alt Summit in Salt Lake City. Our party was sponsored by Joann Fabric and Crafts and Alt. I had such a wonderful time meeting new friends and chatting with the sponsors.

I can’t thank these two lovely women enough for all of their help and friendship throughout the experience and for Kelly from Cloudy Day Gray for being our super woman. We can’t wait to see you again Kelly!

flanneldiscopost001Silver tinsel and disco balls everywhere flanneldiscopost002I made these disco ball planters from some disco balls I purchased at a discount store here in Massachusetts. Then I hollowed them out (with a steak knife, very fancy). Krissy did all of our florals and they were definitely a highlight of the evening.flanneldiscopost003 flanneldiscopost004 flanneldiscopost005 flanneldiscopost006 flanneldiscopost007 flanneldiscopost008 flanneldiscopost009 flanneldiscopost010 flanneldiscopost011 We had a floral headbands station at the entrance to the party where guests could build their own adornments before going in to dance their hearts out.flanneldiscopost012 flanneldiscopost013We spent several evenings braiding strips of fabric to make all of the headbands. Worth it. All of the fabric we got from Joann’s.  flanneldiscopost014 Krissy is crazy. She sewed an entire dance floor out of flannel from Joann’s. So baller.flanneldiscopost015 flanneldiscopost016 flanneldiscopost017 flanneldiscopost018 flanneldiscopost019 Alt winter 2015 - Justin Hackworth Photography Alt winter 2015 - Justin Hackworth Photography Alt winter 2015 - Justin Hackworth Photography Alt winter 2015 - Justin Hackworth Photography The three of us built this photo booth backdrop (fabric is not from joann’s in case anyone is looking for this buffalo plaid). flanneldiscopost024 flanneldiscopost025 flanneldiscopost026 flanneldiscopost027 flanneldiscopost028 flanneldiscopost029 flanneldiscopost030 flanneldiscopost031 flanneldiscopost032

Thank you to everyone who came and danced with us! If you’re looking for photo booth pictures you can find them HERE.


I took the last few months off from working on anything on here because I wanted to really think about the content I want to be publishing going forward. It was also the busiest part of wedding season/the holidays. I’ve had some time to sit down and set some goals and brainstorm ideas and I’m excited to jump back into posting again. The blog is going to take a little bit of a different (and hopefully better) direction this year. Hopefully it’s something you all like!


And now a little catch up on us, and we’ll move on to newer things:

Our BFFs Monica, Heidi, and Harry came down and visited us for a couple days.

UPDATE0001Jane has really taken to being a home depot helper, she was especially fond of helping choose mums for the porch this fall.  Processed with VSCOcam with c1 presetOne of our two weekends in Martha’s Vineyard. The Harbor View hotel in Edgartown is top notch, for anyone planning a trip.  Processed with VSCOcam with g3 presetLots of dinners outside on the patio.  UPDATE0004Our college friend Linsday from London Photo came and did our family pictures. UPDATE0006 UPDATE0007 UPDATE0008 UPDATE0009 Christopher played soccer but decided it wasn’t for him. “I want to go home, I’m tired of running.” Processed with VSCOcam with c1 presetI braved a climb to the top of our 15 foot ladder and put up a swing for the kids. Jane has only fallen out once thanks to an overzealous push from Christopher.  UPDATE0011 Still feeling like ballers living by the ocean. UPDATE0012 UPDATE0013 Jane is coloring on everything. If you plan on coming by give me a few minutes warning so I can get the magic eraser out. UPDATE0014 My mom and dad sent me my grandma’s piano for my birthday. I love having it here. Processed with VSCOcam with c1 presetThe kids love it too. The piano may feel differently… UPDATE0016Jane and her friend Natalie went to the zoo in Providence. It’s definitely the best zoo in the area. If you’re in Boston head down there for a zoo, skip Franklin Park and DEFINITELY skip the Stone Zoo.  Processed with VSCOcam with c1 preset Processed with VSCOcam with c1 presetWe are working on our bedroom right now. We got a new bed, and lights and built some floating night stands. That plant has already been killed by Jane the plant dumper :( Processed with VSCOcam with c1 preset Another trip to Martha’s Vineyard. These are from Lucy Vincent Beach in Chillmark. It has some awesome cliffs and large rocks. UPDATE0020 UPDATE0021 UPDATE0022 Momma and Poppa Hansen came! We filled them with fish and chips. UPDATE0023 UPDATE0024 UPDATE0025Chad’s brothen Kellen came for a visit for one day too, UPDATE0026 UPDATE0027 Apple picking with Grandma Jil. UPDATE0028 UPDATE0029 UPDATE0030Fall festival with Grandma and Grandpa B. Processed with VSCOcam with s4 preset Processed with VSCOcam with k3 preset Processed with VSCOcam with k3 preset Processed with VSCOcam with k2 preset Halloween.Processed with VSCOcam with x1 presetBedazzling UPDATE0036 UPDATE0037A surprise birthday stay at the Verb hotel and a bruins game for Chad’s birthday. UPDATE0038 UPDATE0039 Processed with VSCOcam with hb1 preset UPDATE0041 UPDATE0042 Jane turned 2!UPDATE0043 UPDATE0044We introduce the Snoop dog into our family. After re-homing Buckley 6 months ago we really missed our doggie friend.  UPDATE0045 Processed with VSCOcam with f1 preset Thanksgiving snow!UPDATE0047 Processed with VSCOcam with s3 preset UPDATE0049 Processed with VSCOcam with c2 preset A family trip to NYC (museum of natural history, central park, FAO schwartz)UPDATE0051 Santa!UPDATE0052 Processed with VSCOcam with c1 presetChad and I had a wedding published in the GORGEOUS new publication, Geraldine. It’s available online and at select Anthropoligie stores. Processed with VSCOcam with s2 preset Processed with VSCOcam with s2 presetOur first Christmas in our house. Processed with VSCOcam with c1 presetOn to the new year! UPDATE0057